The Hopeful, The Heart Breakers, The "Gives You False Hopes" and The One
Okay.. let's make things clear. There are three type of guys that you will meet in your life searching for your true love. These 3 are (I think) pre requisite before finding the one. (Not unless you're lucky enough.) I have put them in this categories. Let's dissect and understand each.
I. The Hopeful
Dear Hopeful Guys,
When in search for true love, make sure you're ready to get hurt. Investing into someone is no big joke, that's a guarantee. But when you invest into something, be sure you're ready to take the consequences.
Second, be clear on your intentions. When you are trying to invest in a relationship, it should be clear at first date or say second date (the latest) what your intentions are. Tell the girl you like her if you do and not if you don't so you get things clear early on. Hindi yung aasa kayo tapos maninisi kayo sa huli na pinaasa kayo eh hindi naman kayo nagtatanong?! Kumusta naman?!
This is not right. Blaming the girl or the other party because it wasn't clear where you stand. It's always good to ask. Don't prolong the dating stage trying to figure out if you two will be compatible or not without knowing what the other party feels and where you stand into his/her life. Less pain. Less blame. Yes? Yes!
II. The Heart Breakers
This are the guys I couldn't withstand. They play the dating game. They pretend to be someone they are not just to get your attention. They promise you the world and everything in between then they will have your heart broken in the end.
To the guys like this, I'm saluting you with my middle finger. You don't deserve to love and be loved in return if you do this. When you plan to be in a relationship, you build trust. You don't cheat. You build relationship. You don't cheat. You have to be honest. You don't cheat. You stay away from lies (as much as possible). You don't cheat. You keep your words. You don't cheat. You love your partner whole. You don't cheat. Cheating may be part of the game but you opt not to, because a real relationship doesn't involve cheating.
III. The "Gives You False Hopes" guys
Don't us girls love the feeling of being swept off of our feet? Holding on to those promises of "foreverS" and "I will never leave you." Don't deny. We are all guilty of that. I, for one, am guilty of that. Because that's the ultimate goal of relationship. The forever kinda like. The make you feel that you're the most beautiful girl in the world in your partner's eyes. The building of future together and looking forward of spending the rest of your life with him. Facing the world together, through struggles and success.
So for you guys who give false hopes to girls and promise them the world... Back off! You guys are not far from number II. You guys don't deserve the eternal love you are looking for because you always find flaws on something. And when you can't keep up with it, you give up. Blame it to dissimilarities. Yea right. (Fine I'll give you that credit) But, when you enter a relationship, be sure to follow through! Never promise something that you can't stand up to. Where are your balls?
Never promise forever, never put your best foot forward, never put effort if you can't sustain it. Don't invest time, emotions, and make the girl feel that you are into her like she's the last girl you're going to fall in love with. That's just not right. No matter how you look at it. It's not right. When you invest, you push through. When you enter a relationship, you push through. You have to keep up with her sh*t because that's what a REAL MAN does. That's how REAL LOVE is. You stay. You ask the girl to never leave you, you ask the girl to stay, you ask the girl to never give up, bacause you also promise the same... you push through.
IV. The One
This is the goal! This is each and everyone of us targets. If you want to find "The One," NEVER SETTLE. Keep your guards up. Build up the wall. Build it as high as you want to until someone climbs up and see you at the other side, or break it to give you heavens and be with you til hell. Don't trust easily. Words are words until it's proven. Never be swayed by those little gestures that are shown to you at the moment. (Most of it are being done to impress you) Wait for the rough road and see if he pushes through. Wait until you prove yourself that he is worth it. In short, "wag malandi te!" Don't let yourself be fooled, you'll get hurt. You deserve a love as much love you can give. Find that man. Find that man who will love you and make you feel blessed and lucky. Find that man who will promise you forever and be with you til the end. Find that man who will accept you for who you are and especially who you are not.
It will be hard, it will be long, but never give up. Because that's how love is. It's a risk. You gamble. You get hurt. You will stumble. But be sure you get up. Then LEARN. LEARN from the heartaches and pain. The losses you might have right now might be a blessing in disguise in leading you to your the one. Your true love. Your forever. Your lifetime partner.
Always remember this.
13 Corinthians 4-7
Love is patient love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres.
Adding to that,
Love forgives. Love accepts. Love pushes through. Love doesn't give up. Love faces the world together. Love is two people fighting together. Love is us. Love is you.
(I just love the last line! Haha!)
Love,
Kaye
I. The Hopeful
Dear Hopeful Guys,
When in search for true love, make sure you're ready to get hurt. Investing into someone is no big joke, that's a guarantee. But when you invest into something, be sure you're ready to take the consequences.
Second, be clear on your intentions. When you are trying to invest in a relationship, it should be clear at first date or say second date (the latest) what your intentions are. Tell the girl you like her if you do and not if you don't so you get things clear early on. Hindi yung aasa kayo tapos maninisi kayo sa huli na pinaasa kayo eh hindi naman kayo nagtatanong?! Kumusta naman?!
This is not right. Blaming the girl or the other party because it wasn't clear where you stand. It's always good to ask. Don't prolong the dating stage trying to figure out if you two will be compatible or not without knowing what the other party feels and where you stand into his/her life. Less pain. Less blame. Yes? Yes!
II. The Heart Breakers
This are the guys I couldn't withstand. They play the dating game. They pretend to be someone they are not just to get your attention. They promise you the world and everything in between then they will have your heart broken in the end.
To the guys like this, I'm saluting you with my middle finger. You don't deserve to love and be loved in return if you do this. When you plan to be in a relationship, you build trust. You don't cheat. You build relationship. You don't cheat. You have to be honest. You don't cheat. You stay away from lies (as much as possible). You don't cheat. You keep your words. You don't cheat. You love your partner whole. You don't cheat. Cheating may be part of the game but you opt not to, because a real relationship doesn't involve cheating.
III. The "Gives You False Hopes" guys
Don't us girls love the feeling of being swept off of our feet? Holding on to those promises of "foreverS" and "I will never leave you." Don't deny. We are all guilty of that. I, for one, am guilty of that. Because that's the ultimate goal of relationship. The forever kinda like. The make you feel that you're the most beautiful girl in the world in your partner's eyes. The building of future together and looking forward of spending the rest of your life with him. Facing the world together, through struggles and success.
So for you guys who give false hopes to girls and promise them the world... Back off! You guys are not far from number II. You guys don't deserve the eternal love you are looking for because you always find flaws on something. And when you can't keep up with it, you give up. Blame it to dissimilarities. Yea right. (Fine I'll give you that credit) But, when you enter a relationship, be sure to follow through! Never promise something that you can't stand up to. Where are your balls?
Never promise forever, never put your best foot forward, never put effort if you can't sustain it. Don't invest time, emotions, and make the girl feel that you are into her like she's the last girl you're going to fall in love with. That's just not right. No matter how you look at it. It's not right. When you invest, you push through. When you enter a relationship, you push through. You have to keep up with her sh*t because that's what a REAL MAN does. That's how REAL LOVE is. You stay. You ask the girl to never leave you, you ask the girl to stay, you ask the girl to never give up, bacause you also promise the same... you push through.
IV. The One
This is the goal! This is each and everyone of us targets. If you want to find "The One," NEVER SETTLE. Keep your guards up. Build up the wall. Build it as high as you want to until someone climbs up and see you at the other side, or break it to give you heavens and be with you til hell. Don't trust easily. Words are words until it's proven. Never be swayed by those little gestures that are shown to you at the moment. (Most of it are being done to impress you) Wait for the rough road and see if he pushes through. Wait until you prove yourself that he is worth it. In short, "wag malandi te!" Don't let yourself be fooled, you'll get hurt. You deserve a love as much love you can give. Find that man. Find that man who will love you and make you feel blessed and lucky. Find that man who will promise you forever and be with you til the end. Find that man who will accept you for who you are and especially who you are not.
It will be hard, it will be long, but never give up. Because that's how love is. It's a risk. You gamble. You get hurt. You will stumble. But be sure you get up. Then LEARN. LEARN from the heartaches and pain. The losses you might have right now might be a blessing in disguise in leading you to your the one. Your true love. Your forever. Your lifetime partner.
Always remember this.
13 Corinthians 4-7
Love is patient love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres.
Adding to that,
Love forgives. Love accepts. Love pushes through. Love doesn't give up. Love faces the world together. Love is two people fighting together. Love is us. Love is you.
(I just love the last line! Haha!)
Love,
Kaye
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